A Portable Support Group for Parents Who Have Lost A Child

Every year, some two million parents in the U.S. suffer the death of a son or daughter. This unnatural loss results in an overwhelming sense of emotional and spiritual dislocation. Most of these bereaved parents find relief from their isolation only in the company of others like themselves. The Grieving Garden offers support from twenty-two parents who know what it is to lose a child.

This groundbreaking book invites bereaved parents into a personal conversation with a diverse group of fathers and mothers who share the same loss. The text is free of distracting and heavy-handed editorializing, "expert" opinion, and unwanted advice. Instead, readers are welcomed into a community of common understanding, one they may enter at will, at their own pace, for reassurance, healing, and hope.

About the Authors

Suzanne Redfern (left) is the president of Redfern Ranches, Inc. Her thirty-two-year-old daughter died of lung cancer in 1999. She lives in Palo Alto, Callifornia.

Susan K. Gilbert (right) was a pharmaceutical executive for many years in the Silicon Valley and is now active in the community, serving on a board for the San Francisco homeless. Her eighteen-year-old daughter was killed in an automobile accident in 1993.


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If you have never lost a child, pray that it never happens to you. If you have, The Grieving Garden touches on the pertinent questions and issues. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Each person must find the way that makes sense and works for them, in a situation that makes no sense. Losing a child is nine parts unthinkably horrible, and one part gift. The secret to surviving it is in finding the gift. One is never the same, but one has the choice of becoming bigger, deeper, more.The Grieving Garden lights the path to surviving and becoming more.
- Danielle Steel
(Her son Nick Traina committed suicide at 19, after a lifetime of bipolar illness. He was a successful musician and lyricist, and lead singer of a band. Her book about him, His Bright Light/Delacorte, tells the story of his life and death.)

A fearless, compelling, and ultimately healing glimpse into the heart of love and loss.
- Isabel Allende
Author (The House of the Spirits, Eva Luna, Paula) and bereaved mother.

When the unthinkable happens, most of us long for a community of people who understand what we're going through. When that unthinkable event is the death of a child, we look for reassurance that we can still go on to lead meaningful lives. This book provides such a community, in the candid conversations of others who've been there. Though they pull no punches, the ultimate effect is life-affirming. I recommend it highly to all bereaved parents and to anyone who cares about them."
- Eleanor Coppola
Artist, filmmaker, author of Notes on a Life, and bereaved mother